By Ann Byrne
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05 Apr, 2022
A daily walk by the river was one of the constants of my ‘covid life’ ! As restrictions have been lifted, life is changing again and giving me more freedom. FREEDOM Reflecting on these walks, the river became a symbol for my life. Rivers have had a significance for me which I hadn’t thought of before. Summers of my childhood were spent building dams in a tributary of the Blackwater River, creating a swimming pool in the hot days of summer. Gathering minnows in jam jars and walking for hours with friends along the river. In the winter the field beside the river would flood and freeze over and was used as a skating rink, we could always be found down by the river. Infinite Freedom. Fast forward a few decades! and I’m walking along the Dodder River in suburban Dublin. Early lockdown only allowed 2K and then 5K. Freedom Denied. The Dodder became a focus similar to the river of my childhood. I saw the beauty of the river through the eyes of the child in me again. The ducks, herons, foxes, weeping willow trees, giving me a new appreciation of nature. One day children were building a dam with the help of their parents; parents didn’t help in the ‘dam building’ of the late 60’s and 70’s along the Blackwater!! Freedom is not a given, and there have been many instances over the past few months where I have been very grateful for where I live, and the Freedom I have, not to be taken for granted. FOCUS Viewing the river as a symbol of life, it meanders, it is not a straight line, it is deep in parts and very shallow in other parts. The heron stands tall and is very focussed to catch the food for the day. Keeping our focus is important if we need something, like the heron’s need for food. When I left the corporate sector, I had the freedom to explore something new, but I was out of my dept, I was in the deep water. I didn’t know who I was without the identity of my previous role. I was looking for a change in direction and had ideas, however, not focussed. With the help of a coach, I took the steps that I needed to take to gain the Focus which helped me flow again. I connected with my values, went back to college, connected with old networks and built new ones, all very useful for a new chapter in life. FLOWING FORWARD On one of my river walks, a piece of wood was stuck in a little rapid, it couldn’t go up or down the river, it kept getting pushed against a rock. As long as it kept banging against the rock it couldn’t move, eventually it breaks. The river keeps flowing forward, it can’t go backwards. If you get stuck it is important to try and find a way to move forward. Like the river life keep moving forward not backwards. When my life changed it was immediate, I was working one day and not the next. However, the transition process to something new took time. Here are some tips which helped me and may help you:: 1. Let go of some of the stories you are telling yourself - are they true? 2. Change Perspective - open yourself to meeting new people and ideas and change your routine. 3. Start with something small to change – one small step leads to more. 4. Connect with what’s important and holds meaning for you – at this stage of your life. 5. Get out of your comfort zone - saying I can’t do that YET versus I can’t do that….. 6. Being hopeful and having a positive outlook, when feeling negative, challenge yourself to shift your thinking. 7. Talk to someone that might help you get unstuck. Similar to the river, there are times in our lives when everything is flowing freely and smooth. If you are feeling stuck on a rock or in waters that are too deep or too shallow for you to flow, talk to someone, it will always help you move forward. It will help to identify the first step to explore the possibilities available to you and support you to take that first step. #transitioncoaching #redundancy #earlyretirement #lifelonglearning #growthmindset #optimism #newchapter #newstage #longevity